It also follows that people who have little knowledge of what the Bible teaches will naturally, and most likely frequently, do things that violate those teachings. Many people are rather shocked when, later in life, they learn that Jesus condemned divorce except on the grounds of sexual immorality, or adultery (Matt. 5:31-32; 19:8-9). They didn’t know, they were ignorant. But the apostle Paul told the Athenians that ignorance of God’s will is not an acceptable excuse; God will hold us accountable (Acts 17:30-31).
People ask, “But what if…” Everything that comes after those initial three words is an attempt to find an exception to God’s law on marriage. There is no exception other than sexual immorality. Whether or not society agrees, whether or not a married couple respects it to that extent, in God’s eyes the marriage commitment is for life (Rom. 7:1-3; 1 Cor. 7:39). That was His intention “from the beginning” (Matt. 19:8; Mk. 10:4-9).
God instituted marriage in the beginning (Gen. 2:21-24). His plan for marriage is simple- one man and one woman together for life! Whenever we start tinkering with God’s design we quickly end up with a tangled bowl of spaghetti. If we’re not careful, that tangle can wrap itself around our eternal salvation and pull us down to the pits of condemnation.
What’s the answer? Be circumspect in preparing for marriage (Eph. 5:15). Know and respect what God’s word teaches on marriage. Pray for His wisdom, guidance and blessings in finding a good potential spouse. Be careful whom you date, for you’ll almost certainly marry someone you date. Don’t marry someone with whom you incompatible. Be sure that the person you marry will be someone who will help you get to Heaven.
In a minority of cases, there seems to be no alternative other than divorce. But those cases are in the minority. Most of the time, with determined persistence, reliable counsel, diligent prayer and dedication to follow God’s way divorce can be avoided. A good, fulfilling marriage is worth the effort. However one might try to sugar coat it, divorce means a failed marriage…