Rounded off, there is one divorce granted for every two marriages performed in our nation today, and it has been that way for decades. Following is a list of what could be called Rules Of Thumb for A Good Marriage And A Happy Home. While not fool-proof, if followed consistently they will provide a much greater likelihood that a couple will maintain a good, happy, fulfilling marriage. The scripture references cited are usually not in a context that discusses marriage in particular, but the principles brought out in those texts can be properly applied to the marriage relationship.
God hates divorce! "For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates divorce…” (Mal. 2:16). That is an emphatic statement. Yet statistics state that there is almost one divorce granted for every two marriages joined in our country today, and it has been pretty much that way for decades. Why would so many people do something that God hates?
What is the definition of love? Ask three different people, and you’ll likely get three different definitions. For most people love is largely subjective, based on their personal feelings and experiences. As such love is almost impossible to define objectively. Indeed, it may be easier to describe it than to define it. The most comprehensive definition is found in scripture: “…God is love.” (1 Jn. 4:8).
Somebody recently expressed to me their observation on the attitude of a lot of people pertaining to getting married: “It’s about like buying a pair of shoes. If this pair doesn’t work out, they’ll go buy another pair. If this marriage doesn’t work out, they’ll go get another husband or wife.” While it might not be quite that flippant, I’d say that’s a pretty accurate depiction of the careless attitude of many folks pertaining to marriage.
Why should a man and woman get married? Several answers to this question will be offered from the perspective of a man and woman who are capable of handling the responsibilities of marriage and who are scripturally qualified to be married.
It’s impressive to observe what all a bride-to-be, and usually her mother, go through for several months to get ready for her upcoming wedding. In fact, it’s almost mind boggling to consider all of the minute details that go into planning a wedding.
Marriage is one of the great blessings bestowed upon mankind by God. God uniquely created man and woman to go together, to complete one another. It is fascinating to contemplate God fashioning the woman from a bone from the man’s own body (Gen. 2:21-23). God personally brought the woman to the man, and from the beginning that union was recognized as marriage: Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife…” (vs. 24). Marriage is not a product of some supposed social evolutionary process, it is by God’s purposeful design.
It has long been said that the most effective advertising is word of mouth! That does not discount the value and importance of standard forms of commercial advertising, such as television, radio, newspapers, magazines, billboards, internet, and so on… If there was no value in commercial advertising, newspapers would pretty much shut down, radio stations would go off the air and television spots on the Super Bowl would not be running in the millions of dollars per spot.
Many people find themselves in climates that are detrimental to their health. The effects are different from individual to individual. Some people have difficulty tolerating severe heat while others suffer under extremely cold temperatures. Different individuals struggle with high humidity or too much pollen in the air or heavy concentrations of mold and mildew or other agents to which they are allergic. In many cases, their environments prove to be hostile enough that some folks have to move to a different location that is more supportive of their physical well being.
It is said, “A picture is worth a thousand words.” One way we’re supposed to influence the world toward godliness is by presenting a good, consistent image of Christianity through the way we live our individual lives as Christians. Our consistent, faithful lifestyle can make quite an impression on the lives of some people around us. Our example of faithful, dedicated Christianity can impact their lives for good. Somebody is always watching us, whether we realize it or not. It could be that what they see in us could influence them toward Christ and, ultimately, to salvation.
Gary L. Hutchens